Why Does Learning How to Overcome Low Self Esteem Have to Be Hard?
When it comes to learning how to overcome low self-esteem, it’s extremely likely that this is a journey that you’ve struggled with at some point in your life - or are still struggling with.
Most societies don’t truly educate people in matters of emotional health and emotional intelligence, which means learning about ways to build confidence are generally more readily accessible to those who have a healthy social circle of supportive family and friends.
But for the many that don’t have a solid or complete foundation of support and nurturing care, learning about these pivotal aspects of a balanced and healthy life is basically stumbling, tripping, and falling through your emotions and mental battles.
This is a stupid and ineffective way to learn these important building blocks for developing self-confidence.
Learning this way means that your progress will take years to manifest in tangible ways.
But you can’t realistically wait for society to catch up with the evolution of human thought that has occurred, particularly that of the last 20 years thanks to the Internet.
Now more than ever there are conversations taking place about the matters that hurt humanity and society; systemic racism, abusive and toxic use of power against women, and even the lack of self-care is getting more attention.
This is great on the large scale, but more effort needs to be made on the scope of the individual.
The importance of individuality is definitely a subject that needs to be talked about.
It’s vital that you begin to realize there is a wealth of potential available to you, and that even by yourself, you can make positive changes to yourself.
By before any changes can come about, before you can start learning how to overcome your low self-esteem, you need to recognize one pivotal fact of life; your reality is subjective to the thoughts you focus on.
Which means the struggle of low self-esteem comes down to one thing; self-talk
That inner conversation you have with yourself is so important because it impacts literally everything you do, how you perceive life, and in the case of your self-esteem, how you think about the negative things that happen to you.
The term ‘beating yourself up’ is extremely common; most of us are guilty of this lack of self-love at some point.
We get disappointed in ourselves for falling back to old habits, or for not taking initiative to improve. All aspects of life can be impacted by our inner voice and that directly links to how you think about yourself.
How you think about yourself translates to how much of your potential you can access.
Research already shows that self compassion is more capable of bringing about positive change in your life than being hard on yourself.
Learning from your mistakes is one thing - even if you do it over and over again - but being critical of yourself to the point of self beration means you are just making yourself more likely to be depressed and lower your self confidence even more.
So what does this mean for overcoming low self-esteem and building ways to develop self-confidence?
It means what you think about yourself is vitally important in the journey to a healthy and balanced lifestyle, which includes having a stable sense of self-esteem.
It also means you have an internal method of development that you can work on everyday that costs you nothing.
The toxicity of the environment around you may not help your development, but rest assured that you still can make progress.
The point is something we discussed in an article about your potential, using self-reflection and being aware of your thoughts.
If you’re aware of your thoughts, then you can be aware of your self-talk.
It’s very likely your self-talk is negative, and if it is then you can then begin to change that by making sure you are consciously and actively having thoughts that contrast the normal ‘beat yourself up’ sort of thoughts that just passively occur in your mind.
Due to the neuroplasticity of our brains, we can actively change our regular thought process - including those voices that tell us we’re not good enough - into processes of self-affirmation, positive self-image, and begin to truly care for yourself, simply by focusing on positive thoughts, messages, and activities.
It’s likely that knowing this is not enough, because if you’re miserable, you’re probably focusing on your miserable thoughts, viewing posts about being miserable, listening to sad music.
You’re basically on the Sad Seas and sailing yourself further into it.
This is another important factor to realize; if you leave yourself alone to keep thinking this way, due to the very neuroplasticity that can help you get out of it, you can keep pushing yourself further and further into the depths of low self-esteem.
It’s very pivotal then to make sure you have sources of motivation and inspiration to help you develop that positive self-talk.
There are so many sources for this across the Internet, from CGP Grey’s incredible video on ways to maximize misery, to Les Brown’s morning motivational speech, to dedicated Instagram/Facebook pages that give you daily self-affirmation messages, there’s plenty of ways of increasing your exposure to positive talk, which will then influence a change to positive self-talk.
We’re all about the positive self-talk here, which is why we want to be a source of positivity for you, and help further your development as a human being.
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